Fashion + Dating? Yes, Now It Exists!

As a creative introvert, I can understand the struggle people go through to find their perfect person. When inspiration hits, your attention is focused on your work and dating or relationships can take a hit. Not to mention, it is incredibly difficult to find someone who understands what it's like or is in a similar field.

It can be especially lonely.

Malaka Pickens has found a solution.

Style-Mate.com is a brand new fashion entrepreneurship and dating platform. The website offers a place where you can set up your own shops, cross promote with your fellow designers, customers, and social media followers all while providing fresh content. Your customer base can register and interact with you directly. In the process, you can meet and find your perfect partner.

I, personally, think it's brilliant.

While I am not in the market for a partner (I'm married to the most patient man in the universe), I did spend some time perusing the new and creative fashion on the site. The prices are absolutely competitive and the designs are fresh, new, and exciting! I love that I was able to find one of a kind fashion designs to try and fall in love with! 

The site is still building so luckily you can get in on the ground floor! Some of the two hardest things as a creative person, in my opinion, are being able to get your creative enterprise out to the public and find that perfect person, just for you. Style-Mate is a fun and original concept that has you covered! It's free to set up a shop and there are no commission or fees off your sales. Style-Mate is for designers by designers!

After you sign up, I'd love to hear about your experience. I'm always rooting for people finding love in this crazy world and, of course, awesome and interesting new fashion designs! 

The Wifey Box: A Special Subscription Box

My husband and I have been together a long time. 

Over twenty years. 

We were very young when we began our life together and started our family right away.

What can I say? The man is hot.

As you can imagine, I am constantly looking for ways to keep our marriage fun. I found the neatest new subscription box and I had to tell all of you other wifeys about it!

The Wifey Box comes in two sizes, Petite and Grand. I subscribed to the Petite because I'm cheap (lol) but I'm thinking I might switch over to the Grand. I am so in love with everything in this box!

First, I received the Freematic Eyeshadow Quad (Doucce) in Sweet Dreams, which is like a $35 eye shadow palette! I don't think I have ever spent that much money on all of my makeup combined, much less just eye shadow! I wore it out with the hubs the other night and I felt so elegant. It was a little thing, but it made me feel like one million and thirty five dollars. 

Thoughtfulls are adorable little pop open cards. Each one has an inspirational message of love to remind you of its power or to give as gifts to your loved ones. I put them under my husband's pillow when he's had a bad day because I'm a nerd.

The Iris Beilin Mis Amores Beauty clutch was a surprise! It's a pretty pink leather bag that is bigger than normal beauty bags. I have way too many brushes, so it's perfect to keep those in! Of course, it's great for travel as well.

Last but not least, is my absolute FAVORITE thing that came in my box! A mini Pineapple Mint Whipped Soap Sugar Scrub by Naiad Soap Arts. I.LOVE.THIS.STUFF. It's different from other sugar scrubs I have tried before. It starts out grainy, obviously, but it immediately gets SO SOFT. I could hear my skin singing with joy. It's a cleanser and moisturizer in one and I am going to buy out their entire inventory, I swear! I never would have known about it either if it wasn't for my wifey box!

You get a few more items with the Grand subscription, but the petite size works out great for my needs. It's just a monthly little gift for myself and my husband because if I'm happy, he's definitely happy. I can't wait to see what comes next month!

Consulting The Stars: A Reading With Tori

Since I learned what astrology was, I have been fascinated by it. It's clearly because I'm a Gemini.

I have been incredibly apprehensive about our future now that the Navy isn't telling us where to move, what to do, when to do it. 

It was my life for twenty years, so I got pretty complacent with the nomadic lifestyle, but I have never felt so much freedom as I do now.

In searching for answers, I was lucky to meet astrologist and psychic, Tori Sheridan and get my very own birth chart reading!

Tori Sheridan is a second generation astrologer, following in her mother's footsteps, based in Chicago. She picked up her first book on astrology at 8 years old and began studying exclusively at 14.

Many, many years ago, I had a friend do my chart and it was pretty interesting but unfortunately because of moves and well, life in general, I misplaced it. So, I was crazy excited to get a new one!

After a few scheduling conflicts (did I mention Geminis can be a little disorganized? Yeah, it's a problem), I was finally able to get on the phone with the lovely Miss Tori and have my reading.

It was so amazing and interesting.

I like to pretend that I know all about astrology, but truth be told, I have negative zero idea what the position of the planets mean in relation to my sign or trines or anything like that. The only thing I'm sure of is Mercury in retrograde is a bad thing...I think. Mercury is my ruling planet so you do you, Mercury!

Source

Some interesting things I found out from my reading:

• For those of you who aren't aware, I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis at 32. Come to find out, SATURN is the culprit! I rarely talk about my chronic pain issues online or with people so I was really surprised that came up!
• Jupiter squaring Mars in my chart means I have a little bit of a temper. Heh. I'm a slow burn, but once it's ignited, BOOM.
• The Moon in Pisces means I am extremely empathetic and sensitive and it causes a conflict between my intellect and emotions. TRUE.
• Jupiter in opposition means I am lucky. 
• And, to summarize, I lose myself in work and can get overwhelmed but will eventually learn to say no. I can often feel nostalgic and indulge in music and little luxuries. I'm a big baby, but I'm smart and see both sides of a situation always, almost to the point of indecisiveness (SO TRUE). All in all, things look pretty favorable and I am thankful for that!

But, here's where it got weird:

In the middle of the reading, she suddenly stopped and blurted out, "Why did you quit law?"

I was gobsmacked. Speechless. Shocked.

I hadn't mentioned ANYTHING about my law background with her. I hardly mention it ever to anyone. It's something I have put away on a little shelf that has gotten quite dusty with time.

When I was young, I wanted to be one of two things: a writer or an attorney. Life took some twists and turns, as it often does, and I wasn't able to begin college until I was in my twenties...and I started with paralegal studies in hopes that I would eventually go through law school. That didn't pan out for reasons I don't like to go into, but I did continue writing. According to Miss Tori, I am absolutely in the right career.

It was just so jarring (not in a bad way) that she knew that without me mentioning a word about it and it was all because it showed up in my chart!

All in all, a lot of my worries were put to rest and I learned a lot of new things about myself! I really enjoyed it!

If you would like your own reading with Tori Sheridan, right now she is offering a special! Just send an email to tori@astrologywithtori.com with "Stephanie" in the subject line and she will give you a reading for $1 a minute (20 minute minimum). You do have to be 18+ and know your exact time of birth.

Have you ever had a birth chart reading? What do you think about astrology?

MyGiftStop.com $300 Gift Card Father's Day Giveaway!

Father's Day is coming and I am so excited to bring you guys a $300 gift card giveaway from MyGiftStop.com!

MyGiftStop.com is an awesome online retailer of luxury items at crazy, insane low prices.

You guys know how much I love an awesome bargain. 

Well, not only could I find another awesome gift for my husband at an amazing price, every purchase donates 5% to Direct Relief, a global medical relief nonprofit. 

 Luminox 0321.BO Sea Turtle Giant 

Sometimes, being a blogger is no fun because I ruin every single surprise (pretend to be surprised when you open this gift, Christopher, pleaseandthankyou. Also, if you are reading this, take the garbage out).

They don't have just watches, though.  I know the running joke is that women are obsessed with shoes, but I am totally not. I will, however, go bankrupt over a gorgeous bag or alluring perfume. I spent a ridiculously long time browsing the site looking for gifts, and then I spent just as much trying to choose which ones I was actually going to purchase.

One for him.
One for me. 
That's how it works, right?

Totally.

Once you are done "window" shopping...(is it still called "window" shopping online? hmmm)... Anyway, after you are done looking around and picking out all of your goodies, CLICKETYCLICK HERE TO ENTER THE $300 GIFT CARD GIVEAWAY and hopefully, you will win all of your lovely items. They are also having a Father's Day and Graduation Sale so right now you can get an EXTRA 10% OFF with coupon DADGRAD2018! Make sure you come back here and tell me in the comments which items you liked the best!

8 Ways A Writing Career Benefits Your Kids

Today, I am honored to bring you a guest post from Samara over at TinyFry! Samara Kamenecka is a Virtual Assistant specializing in SEO and writing, based in Madrid. When she’s not chained to her computer, she likes to explore the city with her boyfriend, their two kids, and their dog. You can find her blogging about everything from pregnancy tips to parenting hacks over at Tiny Fry. 

8 Ways A Writing Career Benefits Your Kids

Some people think that writing is an easy way to make a living working from home, but if it was easy everyone would do it. The truth is that making a living from writing can be challenging, but if you’re good at it, many rewards come along with writing as a career. My favorite part of being able to work from home is how it benefits my kids.

       No Daycare

Not having to pay a daycare provider is two benefits in one. First of all, daycare is not cheap, and many parents seem to work just to pay for someone else to care for their kid(s). Secondly, you know exactly who is raising your child, and you never have to worry about what the daycare provider may or may not be teaching them.

 Flexible Schedule

Having a flexible schedule is the best benefit for you and your kids. There are not many people in this world who have the flexibility to pick up and drop off their kids from school, attend mid-day school events, and still be around to have family dinner and help with homework at night. It also doesn’t force you into a panic whenever your kid has a sick day, or the daycare cancels out of nowhere.

      

Grow Together

Working as a writer takes a lot of hard work and growth which can get a bit  frustrating at times, especially when there are little ones tugging at your pant legs while you’re trying to focus. Though some days can be tough, it allows you and your kids to grow together and understand each other better. You will both probably learn lessons in patience and time management while building a stronger bond.

       They See a Role Model

A lot of kids don’t understand the importance of work because they simply don’t see it. By seeing you working to provide for your family you are setting a good example for work ethic and helping them understand an important part of life as an adult. As a work from home mom, you are also setting the example that women are an equally important part of the workforce as men.

      No Commute

Some people spend two hours or more of their day commuting to and from work. Not having to commute is a benefit for anyone who works from home, but especially parents who get to spend that extra time with their kids. It also saves money and the environment, which is yet another benefit to your children.

       Financial Contributions

Some parents decide to start writing after they have decided to stay at home. So hopefully, that income can be used in surplus to the budget to do things like save for a child’s education or enroll them in enrichment classes. The money could even be used for a vacation potentially, and since you’re a writer, you won’t have to worry about taking time off!

       A Safe and Clean Home

One of my favorite benefits of being a writing mom is that I can take a break from work to clean a room or throw in a load of laundry. Being able to care for the home while working helps keep a strong work/life balance and also keeps my home cleaner and safer for my kids to play.

      Mental Wellbeing

This is perhaps the subtlest benefit for children with work at home parents. Just knowing that there is going to be someone home to talk to when they need it offers confidence and lowers stress. Being around all the time to offer a hug for a scraped knee or an emotional bruise goes a long way in the happiness of a kid. I can’t tell you how many times my kids have come and sat by me in silence while I worked just to be around me. Being this available builds an unbreakable bond between parent and child that not every parent gets to experience.

If you are choosing to pull double duty as a parent and a writer, make sure you are prepared with everything you’ll need to keep your babies and kids safe and occupied. Writing from home benefits your kids in many ways, but it is still a job and one that can get a little tricky to balance if you’re not careful. At the end of the day, it is one of the best careers in the world to have when it comes to the perfect balance between finance and family.

Treat Yo'self Tuesday Take Care Of You Giveaway WINNERS!

I want to thank all of you for entering my Treat Yo'self Tuesday: Take Care of You Giveaway to celebrate 15,000 readers! You guys are seriously the coolest.

I don't want to leave you in suspense any longer so here is the winner of the Take Care of You gift basket!

Congratulations SHEILA RESSEL send me an email here: suburbanferal@gmail.com with your address so I can send your prize out!

Thanks so much, again everyone! I hope to host a giveaway again soon! 

Current mood:

Arica - Weezer

I took my
serenity
back

Quietly

I claimed my
peace
back from

Eternity.

A song to light
In the distance calling me

I am holding
my life hostage
from
me.

Kwame Baah - Handmade Sandals From Ghana

You guys, I have to tell you about these awesome handmade sandals I received for review from Kwame Baah! I am 100000% in love with them!

Kwame Baah is a shoe company from Ghana that makes handmade sandals. The company's founder, George Kwame Baah, grew up in Akim-Oda in Ghana. After being able to come to America and find success, he started to wonder what he could do to help the people of his impoverished home. He remembered that as a child, he made shoes from recycled tires in order to get by and decided to start a shoe business with the sandals being handmade by the citizens of Ghana.

 In 2011, Kwame Baah Brand was formed with the mission to provide sustainable, and economically just employment for skilled artisans in Ghana. By blending contemporary design with traditional fabrics from Ghana, Kwame Baah is able to provide beautifully handmade sandals that are durable, stylish, comfortable and affordable.

Since we had errands to run and a get together with friends afterwards, I decided to try out my new sandals. 

They are SO comfortable.

I live for comfortable shoes these days and these definitely didn't disappoint! I walked all over the grocery store and a few other stores and these sandals fit me like a glove! They are sort of like Reef sandals in that the more you wear them, the more they mold to your feet. Awesome.

Once we were out and about, I got so many compliments on them! Not only my friends, but other people at the venue asked me so many questions about them and where I found them. I don't always "dress up" when we go out, so the extra attention was welcome this time as I was also wearing a new dress and actually put makeup on my face for the day, ha!

The detail and craftmanship that were put into these shoes are amazing! You don't have to wear a fancy outfit like I did, you could definitely wear these with every day outfits as well. Seriously, they are that comfortable! I love the traditional fabrics woven throughout with the leather, it's so stylish!

If you would like to read the story of Kwame Baah or check out their other shoes and sandals, you can find them right here: https://kwamebaah.com/women/sandals/. I also have a 10% off coupon code for you to use, because I know you will love them. Just type in SS1FD890G into the coupon code box for your 10% off!

 I highly recommend these sandals and have my eye on a few other pairs as well!

What do you think of handmade items? Tell me in the comments!

Blog Conference Newbie

For the first time ever in my life, I will be attending a blog conference in September. I am beyond excited about it!

I've never been to one before so I am not quite sure what to expect. Hopefully, I will get a lot of new tips and meet lots of new people in my industry.

I have been looking into various things about conferences and think I've been pretty thorough. I've even fallen down the trade show rabbit hole of trade show decorators to make sure I know EVERYTHING about it. 

Yep.

Maybe a little too thorough, but hey, the more you know!

This conference is being held by the BloggyMoms Network at Cedar Point in Sandusky, Ohio. I cannot wait! I've never been to Ohio and I have never been to Cedar Point.  My husband is tagging along so that gives him something to do while I am at the conference all day. Because, I am going to be BUSY.

A quick scan of the agenda shows that from 9am until the evening, I am going to be filling my brain with anyandeverything blogging. Social media strategies, design (which I am WAY excited for), SEO, all of it!

I have been wanting to go to a conference for blogging since I first started over ten years ago. I am so very happy that I finally get the chance to go. I am hoping to become an even better blogger that way. I pretty much have the writing part down, it's all of the other stuff that I definitely need help with. Hopefully, I will get a plethora of knowledge there and have some fun while I'm at it!

Have you ever been to a blogging conference? What was it like? I'd love to know all about your experience! Tell me all about it in the comments, please!

Regrets? I have a few...

Whoever said that you should live your life with no regrets is full of donkeysnot.

Seriously.

Who in this entire universe doesn't regret something in their life?

No, go ahead to The Google. I'll wait.

That's what I thought.

If you are able to make it through an entire lifetime without regretting anything, I want to know what alternate reality that you lived in during that lifetime.

Now, I don't regret things that happened that were out of my control. There was nothing I could do to change the situation so I don't beat myself up too much for those. However, the ones that I could have actively done something about and didn't...absolutely, I regret them!

I regret not being a better friend. I regret not being a better mother. I regret not being a better wife, daughter, sister, etc. 

Those wear on my heart intensely.

I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Whenever someone says that they have no regrets, I automatically assume that they are lying through their teeth. Maybe they truly do have no regrets, but I don't believe it for a second.

To live an entire lifetime and never want a do over on ANYTHING? 
Hmmm.

I think that you should have regrets in your life. I really do. How are you supposed to learn anything if everything in your life is perfect all of the time? It's disingenuous to say that you have no regrets because as human beings, we all are always striving to do better, be better. I'm sure there is something you regret doing knowing you could have done it better or been better in that situation, right? 

There is no perfect person in this world.
NONE.

So, unless you have a time machine to go back and change what you feel is a regret, then you are going to have to live with it. It's not a bad thing, it's just life. It is what it is. Life has twists, turns, complications, and yes, regrets.

It just shows that you are normal. 

Whatever normal is, anyway.

The saying, "Live your life with no regrets" has always annoyed me beyond reason. I'm going to take my regrets and learn from them. That, at its core, is what life is about.

How about you? Do you have regrets? How do you deal with them?

Current mood

Be The One - Moby

7 Reasons Why Your Writing Business Is Not Growing

When you finally decided to embrace your passion for writing and make it your full-time job, you were somehow hoping for a more positive response from the market. However, a lot of enthusiastic writers struggle to make a living out of their hobby. While it is commonly accepted that not everyone is born to be the next J.K. Rowling or Stephen King, it doesn’t mean that there is no potential earning for new writers in this sector.

In fact, if your writing business has not become a success yet, it may not be because the market is crowded, but instead, it could be the result of a mistake. Yes, it could be as simple as having forgotten to prepare for the expectations of your freelancing writing role.

So, before you give up all hopes and look for a full-time job in an office, take the time to check if you haven’t made any of the 7 deadly mistakes of amateur digital writers. Writing doesn’t have to be a dream. With the right approach and strategy, you can make your living out of it. Wouldn’t you want to be able to let your writing business pay the bills without needing to take on additional shifts at your local coffee shop or as a tutor to make ends meet? Here are some of the reasons why you may not be able to grow your writing business:

Grow your writing business

You lack practice

Most motivational guides that encourage you to hone your skills tend to follow a precise rule: Nobody is born a writer. It’s a skill that you can learn and develop through writing. Don’t believe the 10,000-hour rule that says you need to practice for 10,000 hours to master any skill, as you might need a lifetime to become a proper writer at this pace!

Instead, accept that you may need to push yourself out of your comfort zone to develop your writing skills. You can start every day with simple and targeted exercises, such as writer shorter and more persuasive emails, for instance – aka remove all the unnecessary blah blah from your texts. You can also improve the structure of your blog articles to make it easier for your readers to follow the logical flow of the piece. Finally, don’t hesitate to take on new jobs and get feedback on it, so that you can improve.

You lack preparation

Keeping a regular blog is hard work, so it’s fair to say that if you expect your blog to create a buzz around your services, you need to give yourself the best chances to shine. This starts by preparing your posts ahead. You can’t just sit at your keyboard and hope for the best. The truth is: You can’t wing it, you need to have content ready and waiting for be published. To make it easier you can schedule your posts by batches, once a month, once a week or even once a year, depending on the frequency you’re the most comfortable with. This allows you to schedule future social media promotions and even catch-up emails and newsletters for your readers.

You don’t grow your influence

You are one of many. It’s fair to say that you’re not the only person trying to break into the writing world. If you can’t leverage your author influence, you’re doomed to remain in the shadow of writers who stand out. You can discover more about how to use books – and especially your books – to build a long-term career. As a writer, self-publishing a book can help you to grow your revenues and your reputation. Ultimately, when you publish a book, you can establish yourself as an authority in your business, meaning that clients, agents, and companies begin to take you seriously.

You don’t have role models

How often do you read? If you’re the kind of writer who claims that they can’t read for fear of being influenced by others, it’s time to change your mindset. Good writers need to be good readers. When you read, you get used to vocabulary, phrases, and grammar being combined together to convey an idea. As a reader, you know that someone who shares a clear view can inspire you to use new words in different ways and to think further as well. Not reading is the fastest path to the writer’s block.

Your website needs improvement

A blog gives you the chance to share your work with millions of readers every day. The main limitation about blogs is that the online competition is very high, so you need to have a tip-top presence to keep readers interested. Don’t just think about your content: Your design matters as well. For instance, it can be easy to forget the importance of white space on the page. White space has the advantage of decluttering the page and making the content the main point of focus, which can be lost if you have an image-heavy layout. Additionally, the good old SEO rules – link building strategies – can’t be ignored as they drive traffic to the site.

You don’t use social engagement

Social media platforms are your best friends when you’re trying to establish a regular audience. For instance, when someone mentions your blog online, it can help to grow traffic. Similarly, you can maximize your online personality to interact with new readers and attract your audience. A strong and positive presence is all it takes to hook followers. The more followers you get, the more potential readers you can find!

Promote yourself on social media

You didn’t prepare your portfolio

So, you want to be a writer, but you haven’t prepared a portfolio? The first question that jumps to mind is what is stopping you? You can use this handy platform to group digital clippings of your articles and posts. Many websites let you publish content – Medium is one of them if you don’t have regular clients you can quote – but you can also share URLs and photos of existing content for clients.

Becoming a professional writers demands a lot of time and dedication. But admittedly, while it’s not always easy, you can ensure that you are not making any of these deadly mistakes that could cost you your writing career. Make sure to hone your skills by writing and reading a lot, keep an access-friendly online portfolio and leverage your presence through books and social media.

Have you made any of these mistakes? Did you solve them? Tell me about it in the comments below!